Our idealised notion of romantic love is actually the biggest enemy of long-lasting relationships, says Mark Vernon.
The myth is that there is someone out there with whom your life will be complete, and conversely, without whom your life would be a half-life. A major task of modern life is, therefore, to find this person and, falling in love, to cease to be two and become one.
Romantic love is socially corrosive because it idealises love, rather than understanding that love is made not found. Love is made in the gritty ups and downs of being with someone who is as flawed as you.
There are signs that individuals are rejecting the romantic myth. The number of people living on their own has risen by 50% since the mid-1990s. Many report that singleness means they enjoy more freedom and have time for other relationships, like friendship.
The true art of loving is to navigate the shift from falling in love to standing in love, to borrow the psychologist Erich Fromm's phrases.
Falling in love, the stuff of romance, is the intoxicating sense of possessing someone and/or being possessed. And it just can't last, because possessiveness crushes liveliness.
The risk is that you then feel that love has died because, following the romantic myth, you measure love by its felt intensity.
Standing in love, though, is the capacity to be with someone and be free with someone. It too feels good, though for different reasons. It can allow more subtle qualities to come to the fore, such as commitment and generosity, honesty and openness. It welcomes life.
Standing in love is, perhaps, a healing notion as we face the romantic onslaught of another Valentine's Day.
https://www.bostonglobe.com/business/2016/10/31/boston-study-uber-finds-evidence-racial-discrimination-drivers/V0Y4Zpv0jglK1pbXIRvGDN/story.htmlA new study of race in Uber found the company's drivers in Boston
canceled pickups of riders with African-American sounding names at
double the rate of those with names more likely to belong to a white
1. Every homeless person I have seen is either a single mom or a vet. Their cardboard sign says so.
2. Every homeless person is very religious. Their cardboard signs say, "God Bless You!"
3. Homeless people don't shave.
4. Homeless people wear dingy clothes.
5. Homeless people are thin.
6. Homeless people are always looking for work. Their cardboard sign says so. They just don't use the classifieds to look for work. They expect you to do that for them and tell them about any job openings.
7. Homeless people have backpacks to carry their worldly belongings.
Men Are Just Happier People:What do you expect from such simple creatures?Your last name stays put.The garage is all yours.Wedding plans take care of themselves.Chocolate is just another snack...You can be President.You can never be pregnant.You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.You can wear NO shirt to a water park.Car mechanics tell you the truth.The world is your urinal.You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this one is just too icky.You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.Same work, more pay.Wrinkles add character.Wedding dress: £5,000; Tux rental: £100.People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them.New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle your feet.One mood all the time.Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.You know stuff about tanks.A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.You can open all your own jars.You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend.Your underwear is £5 for a three-pack.Three pairs of shoes are more than enough..You almost never have strap problems in public.You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes..Everything on your face stays its original colour.The same hairstyle lasts for years, even decades.You only have to shave your face and neck.You can play with toys all your life.One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one colour for all seasons.You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.You can 'do' your nails with a pocket knife.You have freedom of choice concerning growing a moustache.You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24th in 25 minutes.
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Nancy Pelosi agreed to add a provision (in the public option health care bill) that would prohibit federal funds from being used for the purchase of plans that cover abortion in a new health care exchange. Leaving out the amendment would force taxpayers (who are morally against abortions) to subsidize abortion.
Pelosi’s decision to give the anti-abortion lawmakers what they wanted in exchange for their accession to passing the bill.
So..., the question is, should people who are morally against abortions be forced to pay for them?
If the Final False Prophet spoken of in Revelation 13 is indeed Pope Francis .. then >> I'm expecting << all of the secular humanistic left / atheistic / false-religious-system / anti-christ / homosexual / and all the Biblical Harlot folk spoken about in Revelation 17 to glob-on to / applaud / accept and follow this guy .. He will literally rally them all together ...... My real point of observation will be IF & WHEN Pope Francis gets on the same page with and starts pointing to and singing the praises of a particular (RISING STAR) powerful political figure ........ time will tell . . . http://dadmansabode.com/forum/viewtopic.php?p=801#p801
Illegals have a traditional family structure. If we want to get rid of illegals, we have to destroy their traditional family structure. We do this through the following methods:1. Legalize marijuana and hand it out in high school, along with condoms.2. Allow schools to facilitate abortions without the parents consent/knowledge.3. Legalize gay marriage.4. Remove "In God we trust" from our money and declare that the U.S. is an atheist country.