How do you feel about your virginity?
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If you wish to have sex I don't see why you just don't? You can't say that you have no sexual urges (unless you're asexual), and the whole "waiting on the right one" is sometimes misused and suggests that you just couldn't have [sex] even if you wanted to (to which I disagree). Don't be shy, meet someone way below your standards if you're somehow embarrassed by your situation, that way you'll have more confidence- which is what I assume most virgins lack at an older stage because of the presumed experience their potential mate would have. Live life, have sex (protected or otherwise) and move on. (Note: I appreciate religious standpoints of celibacy, I'm disseminating this viewpoint to those who hold their virginity for irreligious reasons.) Good luck. I hope the right individual comes along soon and you will both be very happy Whilst I empathise with your values I do not have the same belief in the sanctity of virginity that has been turned into a moral issue. However, in so saying, I do believe in the sanctity of the relationship when we find the right individual and the trust, respect and love we share in our monogamy 1
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There used to be a joke going around when I was a lot younger and lived in the UK that the when the spinster post mistress died she had "Returned unopened" carved on her tombstone. In days gone by in a more chauvinistic time than today, a man was "sewing his wild oats" but a woman was "loose with no morals" to have sex outside marriage. No problem guessing how virtue came to be of importance in this matter in certain levels of society and some even went so far as to demonstrate the brides virginity by showing the stains on the bed sheet the morning after the wedding. The bleeding of the hymen is a myth that became a reality. 1
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In my views, losing your virginity before marriage is something wrong. I mean like, okay maybe you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is your soul mate at the moment and you both planning on marrying at the end of the month. But! Imagine if she/he cheated on you or had a bunch of mistresses locked in his house, etc, isn't that heartbreaking to you? Well if you'd have any feelings, that would be a terrible mistake, but if you're otherwise, then I'm pity for you. Let's put that away, what I'm stressing on is that doing "it" after marriage is, for me, a more blessed way because you could be "officiated" by your beloved husband or for the mans' view, officially taking your wife's, rather than a guy/woman you met just a few months and sudden have the urge to do.......well you know, and that event was like 10 to 20 years back. That's out of topic, but if you ask me....... I'm very happy that I'm still holding my v-card |
